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yourself or your life, it’s important you have a therapist who will truly see you, hear you, and seek to understand your circumstances. The therapeutic relationship is a key aspect of therapy, one that offers genuine care, unconditional positive regard and radical acceptance. This, combined with the training a professional therapist receives, can be a wonderful ally for you in times of struggle. In therapy we will foster a safe, supportive space for you to explore, understand, learn ways to cope with difficulties, heal and grow, and begin to make the changes you want to see in your life. As well as working on the things that are challenging, I also work to highlight your strengths and help you to know yourself and re-engage in things that are important and enjoyable to you. My specialist interest areas are identity & personality, interpersonal relationships, autism, disability/ illness, anxiety and coping, and historic family issues. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5e8b43a64a9453060b9ef53b/1696803479483-6662S0KQHURAVIJYGMUJ/image-asset.jpeg About Me - Continued Professional Development Additional training, workshops and short courses Projective Identification (2025) Practical and Somatic Interventions for Anger and Resentment (2025) IFS and Complex Trauma: A Parts Work Healing Approach (2025) The Neuroscience of Somatic Resourcing (2025) Self Esteem & TA (2024) Understanding OCD (2024) Autism Awareness for Counsellors (2024) IFS and You: An IFS take on The Drama Triangle (2024) Attachment held in the Body: From Theory to Embodied Practice (2024) The Fundamentals of Parts Work (2024) Parts Work in Practice: Changing Relational & Behavioural Patterns Religious Abuse (2024) Living with Dysphagia and Choking (2024) LGBTQ+ Awareness with a focus on LGBTQ+ History (2023) Bipolar Disorder Awareness (2023) Multiple Sclerosis Awareness course for Care Workers and Social Care Staff (2023) Trans Awareness (2023) Releasing Trauma & Chronic Stress Held Within The Body (2023) How the Body Holds Trauma & Chronic Stress Creating Blocks to Change (2023) Working with Neurodivergent Clients Using the Autism Dialogue Approach® (2023) “Unmasking ADHD”: Addressing Impasses & the Inner Child (2023) Creativity as a Therapeutic Technique: Working with the Shadow (2023) Parts Theory: Understanding and Befriending Your Shadow (2023) Child Development- Psychodynamic approach “what enables a child to thrive not just survive” (2023) Parts Work: Dialoguing With Parts (2023) Couples Counselling course (HGI College) (2023) Breathework: The Fundamentals of Theory and Safe Practice (2022) Understanding Mother-Daughter Attachment (2022) The Neuroscience of Stress (2022) Understanding and working with Narcissism (2022) Single-Session Therapy training with Windy Dryden (2022) Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) 6 part Series (2022) S.A.V.E. 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One of my roles is to challenge some of your ways of thinking that may be harmful to you, to make way for understanding and positive change. I know that it takes a lot of courage to engage in therapy I do not take that for granted. I am an avid reader and will regularly familiarise myself with literature that will help me support you individually, I will also keep myself familiar with your progress so we can check in together and remind you of your strengths, goals, and areas you expressed a need to touch on during the therapeutic journey. I encourage and value your thoughts and ideas about the therapeutic process. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5e8b43a64a9453060b9ef53b/1682712466191-Q85LEHGLADSV3K5150D4/unsplash-image-hB_xgEXucQs.jpg About Me - I have over 18 years experience working in the following areas: Autism, ADHD, and learning difficulties Supporting carers Chronic illness and disabilities Advocacy and navigating healthcare Bereavement and grief Self-harm General anxiety & Health anxiety Depression, and low mood Interpersonal relationships I am a covid-conscious practitioner https://www.hollieharlandcounselling.co.uk/contact daily 0.75 2021-08-31 https://www.hollieharlandcounselling.co.uk/servicesandpricing daily 0.75 2025-12-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5e8b43a64a9453060b9ef53b/1586558675799-HGHK07E1GS20X4ABUEO9/image-asset.jpeg Services, Pricing & Availability https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5e8b43a64a9453060b9ef53b/1586556502100-U5XYEVAC5UK5HYOKD27E/image-asset.jpeg Services, Pricing & Availability https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5e8b43a64a9453060b9ef53b/1737640849272-N6ZB02D1QVB4QW49D4O4/unsplash-image-N3DbwlJZpRU.jpg Services, Pricing & Availability - Availability: December: I am currently at capacity Please get in touch if you would like to be contacted when a space becomes available. Please continue your search at the same time; I recommend not waiting if you feel you need immediate support. Spaces are limited. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5e8b43a64a9453060b9ef53b/1586628817107-4D1WHXP9TT0RM6TJD066/image-asset.jpeg Services, Pricing & Availability - Pricing Sessions typically last 50-minutes and my current fee per session is £60. A limited number of concession slots are also available at £40-£45 per session. I have an open door policy for clients who have completed therapy. 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All feelings are important, but some of them can become overwhelming or linger longer than needed, such as anger, hopelessness, sadness, irritability and frustration. A therapist can help you understand and regulate these emotions, so they can come and go as intended. If you feel you need to lower your stress levels. If you are excessively worrying and sometimes feel like you are ready to burst but don’t have an outlet to express this, then counselling may be a useful tool for you. If you have experienced any kind of trauma or abuse, coming to terms with this and finding joy in life again can feel like navigating your way through a maze! Talking to a trained therapist who can empathise, sit with you in the feeling, and help you find ways forwards can be extremely helpful. If you are having relationship problems and feel stuck then counselling can be a helpful step towards getting your relationship back on track. There are so many reasons for seeking therapy and benefitting from therapy- too many to list here. Fundamentally, therapy is a tool that can help you learn skills to address problems and deal with them effectively, it gives you a neutral person to talk to who will be with you as you navigate your way through the problems you are experiencing or facing. Therapy has shown to be just as effective or more so than medication, and often it is only needed short term. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5e8b43a64a9453060b9ef53b/1622488754198-U62GLZW93QGIKSX9MLLB/unsplash-image-_UIVmIBB3JU.jpg About Counselling Your part Counselling works as it is a collaboration between counsellor and client. The foundation of good therapy is a strong therapeutic relationship and from that comes the ability to be open, and explore with your therapist. You must be ready and willing to engage and ‘do the work’ not just in therapy but in-between sessions, so as to get the most out of the process. 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